The importance of #YesAllWomen.

#YesAllWomen came about as a reaction to the #notallmen hashtag that was trending on Twitter after Elliot Rodger killed a number of people in Isla Vista, California.  Rodger went on a rampage because women he fancied wouldn’t have sex with him and so they deserved to die.

#notallmen was created to respond to anyone who might even suggest that all men are like this. #YesAllWomen was created to say ‘Yes, we know that not all men view women like this, but all women have experienced sexism at some point in their lives.

Here are 3 key things to understand about #YesAllWomen

We know it’s #notallmen

We know not all men rape and sexuality assault women, but most woman have experienced some form of sexism in their life.

#YesAllWomen is not about rape or assault which can happen to anyone but the million little things that woman put up with every day.

It’s when we have to check what we’re wearing before we leave the house to make sure it won’t cause comments, it’s when we have to hide our gender on online forms because we’re afraid of the abuse we’ll get and it’s when little boys are told crying makes them like girls, because being a called girl is an insult.

We know you don’t all do this, but this happens to us every day.


Men, this is not about you.

This is not about men, this is about women sharing their stories of mental & physical abuse, it’s about the stories of what women deal with every day. We’d love to hear what you think about our stories but it’s not about you.

Wherever woman gather to talk about abuses they have suffered, there is a man trying to make it about them, wherever statistics of domestic abuse are covered, there is a man trying to make it about them and whenever a hashtag is created to allow woman to share their stories of #everydaysexism, there is a man trying to make it about them.

Men do suffer domestic abuse and men are raped, these are issues that are ignored but shouldn’t be, but no man needs to pretend to be a woman to sell a novel, no man has ever had their knowledge on a subject disputed based on their gender alone and no man watches a T.V. show just because it had strong male characters in it.


I’ve spent a lot of my life as a man.

When I watch films, I experience them from the male protagonists point of view. Woman are plot devices, love interests, murder victims or perhaps all 3 but rarely the protagonist.

I’ve played hundreds of games, peering at the world through the eyes of a man, experiencing their stories rather than my own.I’ve rescued many princess but never a prince and never seen a princess rescue herself.

This is the world we live in. A world where the stories and experiences of men are held above our own. A world where we are told that no one wants to hear our stories, no one wants to know what we experience.


This is why #YesAllWomen is important.


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2 comments on “The importance of #YesAllWomen.
  1. seidrworld says:

    Yes, this clearly states it so well! I can understand that people naturally get defensive when a part of their identity is criticized, but the important thing is too listen.

    Here is my example I use to have issues about racism because I was raised by a rather racist father and a grandpa who would probably disown me if I ever dated a black man. I thought I didn’t have race issues until I started reading up on intersection feminism and I realized I had internalized a LOT of what my dad and grandpa said.

    The problem is that people want to talk when they really should be listening. I that the people who need to talk the most listen the most and the people who talk the most need to listen the most.

  2. TK says:

    I heard it once in relation to Christians who support LGBT rights who took offense some people thought they did, proclaiming they’re ‘not all like that.’ Someone responded saying something along the lines of, “We know you’re not all like that, but you also do speak out and voice your opinion in a public space when one of your group does act like that. You support the status quo with your silence.”

    That’s how it is with this. Sure, not all men are ‘like that,’ but if they don’t speak against sexism when they see it, they’re still a part of the problem.

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